Feminist Friday: It’s My Name; I Chose It.

I’ve been having a lot of conversations this week about names and naming, and unfortunately I haven’t had much time to write. So I leave you with this for today’s Feminist Friday, a post I wrote for the Feminist Friday Discussions about why I chose to keep my maiden name when I remarried and the problems I’ve encountered since doing so.

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My name is Diana Joy Gordon Johns (Brantley).


Probably. Let me simplify.

My name is Diana Gordon. But it wasn’t always.

When I was born, my mother and father decided not to give me any of the names they had chosen, but instead to call me Diana, after my mother, and Joy, because–well, because they were joyful to have a healthy baby girl. I understand the emotion, even if I find it ironic that I, of all people, was named “joy.”

The trouble was—is—that my first name is only 2 letters away from my mother’s first name, and that causes Problems, especially when we have the same last name. Doctor’s offices who’ve treated us both get our files confused; mail meant for one of us consistently goes to the other one; our names are always misspelled, because her name has two n’s while mine has only one.

But it’s…

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  1. Great post. I never really thought about it too much when I was younger. I changed my name when I married, but if I had my time again, I don’t think I would…

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    1. Thank you!

      I didn’t think about it as much the first time I was married, but I was going through a lot at the time, and that was an unhealthy relationship when it came down to it. When I was in a healthier place in life and relationship, with my second husband, I decided I was more comfortable not changing my name.

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